Ending a marriage is never easy, especially if there are younger children involved. However, going separate ways may be the best option for couples because it allows them to end their marriages legally and search for what will make them truly happy. The team from Divorce Options San Diego—professionals who provide expert divorce mediation San Diego couples rely on for customized divorce solutions—offer some tips you can use when telling your spouse you want a divorce.
Find the Right Time
Although it may seem like there’s never a good time to ask for a divorce, there are times you should definitely avoid. For example, if your spouse has just been fired from his or her job or has experienced a devastating accident, wait to tell him or her you want a divorce. The objective is to choose a time when your spouse is mentally and emotionally capable of taking the news. You have a better understanding of your partner than most people do, so you should know when it’s a good time to sit down and talk about ending your marriage.
Choose a Good Location
Having this discussion in an area you both despise or in a place where the children are around isn’t the right way to ask for a divorce. You need to put some thought into choosing the location. For example, avoid crowded areas with noisy backgrounds. If you choose a crowded restaurant, it could prevent your spouse from being honest and open. Instead, you should choose a place that makes you both feel safe and comfortable instead of nervous or intimidated, such as the office of a counselor, a clergyperson, or another person you both trust. It would be best if you planned to stick around after breaking the news instead of asking for the divorce and leaving your spouse there to process everything alone.
Passing judgment or putting all the blame on your partner could make the discussion more challenging. Remain calm, and try to have a positive and productive conversation. You could discuss your mutual unhappiness and how a divorce will allow you both to seek the joy you deserve. If you acknowledge that you’re both unhappy instead of focusing solely on your own feelings, the conversation could go a lot more smoothly.
When telling your spouse you want a divorce, look for ways to discuss how you can work together to make the process less stressful and more successful. Ask your partner what he or she thinks will be the best way to move forward, and be open to his or her opinions and suggestions. Remaining open doesn’t prevent you from sharing your thoughts and feelings. It means you want to make the next steps as easy and straightforward as possible for all parties involved. It could help if you suggest using divorce mediation services to avoid a lengthy dramatic battle while working out an agreement that suits you both.
All the practical, legal, financial, and psychological aspects of fair, respectful divorce agreements can be managed by Divorce Options San Diego’s experienced, trustworthy divorce mediators. San Diego couples can rely on our comprehensive process, which is so thorough there won’t be a need for attorneys. To learn how we can help you with every facet of your divorce, call us today at 858-281-2628.