It’s Official, Divorce Mediation is Better for your Mental and Physical Health
Divorce is a difficult, life-changing event for almost everyone. Thus it’s no surprise that there has been a lot of research demonstrating adverse effects on physical and mental health after divorce. The shock, depression and anxiety associated with divorce can impact mental and physical health and cause people to develop serious health problems. The impact on physical and mental health can also be felt due to the absence of one partner who took care of daily necessities like meal planning and household chores, or paid the bills and managed the finances. People whose partner did the cooking may develop a less healthy diet. People who are left to manage finances with reduced income may experience anxiety about paying bills or decide not to get health check-ups. All of this is without even considering the impact fighting and conflict can have on people getting divorced.
Studies have found negative impacts of conflict on divorce, but it wasn’t until now that research focused specifically on the time immediately after divorce. Previous studies had researched the impact of divorce after a “cool-off period.” The research out of the University of Copenhagen followed couples who had just got a “5 day divorce.” The study found that the shock of divorce had significant impact on physical and mental health. The most telling part of the research was that the effect of conflict overrides all other factors that can ease the impact of divorce. Even with a lot of things in their favor, like a new partner or a successful career, divorcing spouses were overwhelmingly negatively impacted by conflict.
Divorce Mediation is a process during which a neutral mediator helps couples to make their own choices about how to proceed with their divorce by collaborating rather than fighting. Divorce Mediation aims to empower and give control back to spouses over what happens to them during their divorce. It’s human nature to choose conflict as a way of defending yourself against a spouse you may fear or resent. In actual fact, conflict is a chain reaction, like a wildfire, that is difficult to put out and eventually causes a net loss of control. If divorce conflict escalates to a fight in court, it can also cause great financial loss and wasted time.
The study concluded that early interventions may be necessary to reduce the immediate health impacts of divorce, which can effect physical health, mental health, and even threaten your job. Divorce Mediation can operate on multiple levels which may involve conflict de-escalation, planning, financial planning and career coaching, and healing your relationship with your ex if desired. At Divorce Options San Diego we work with California couples have busy lives and who want the best for themselves and their children. Adults who take care of themselves are putting themselves in a better position to shield their children from the harmful impacts of divorce. The impact of a bad divorce on children is well-studied and can be seriously harmful to children’s development.
Taking the Stress out of Divorce
When you choose conflict in divorce, you are choosing to prolong the initial strain and shock of divorce. Divorce mediation, on the other hand, is an efficient intervention that can quickly get you back on your feet so you can get on with your life. You don’t have to be best friends with your spouse to want to work together towards a better future. The mediators at Divorce Options San Diego are compassionate, well-educated professionals who combine psychoanalytical, financial and legal expertise, and who work mindfully with spouses who may be hurt, blindsided and emotionally raw.
Many couples getting a California divorce might feel that conflict resolution is too idealistic to apply to their individual, messy situation. In fact, divorce mediation is an extremely pragmatic intervention that can help couples cope with many small details of everyday life that an adversarial divorce attorney would not be equipped to handle. At Divorce Options San Diego we help families who may be balancing professional and family life to maximize their shared assets by deciding how to optimally distribute them, sell any common assets and move forward.
Another huge stressor in divorce is how complicated it can be. Spouses may get angry at each other for delaying on paperwork, but the truth is, the bureaucracy of divorce is not easy. We are a full service firm who can also help to reduce the stress of divorce by providing paperwork services and helping divorcing couples to streamline the process. Divorce Mediation typically resolves much quicker than a regular divorce, so if you want to move on with your life and/or develop a better relationship with your co-parent, Divorce Mediation is the best way to do it.
Our Services and How We Can Help
At Divorce Options San Diego, we are highly qualified professional mediators and certified financial planners with psychoanalytical expertise. Our mediators are caring, educated professionals who build divorce around conflict resolution, closure and practical solutions for your future life. We reframe divorce as an opportunity to generate creative, optimized solutions for your future and your kids’ future. We never litigate. We do not do adversarial work and we do not ever represent one spouse against another.
We empower divorcing spouses to own their divorce and craft sustainable, effective mutual agreements that will last long after the divorce is finalized. We are a one-stop shop providing a bundle of essential divorce services, from paperwork, court documents and financial analysis, through divorce transition coaching, life coaching and interior design. We use ZOOM, skype video and web conferencing, texting and other forms of electronic communication for convenience, multistage situations, international situations and the current coronavirus crisis. San Diego Divorce Options puts a high premium on a peaceful, child-centered divorce.
We use developmental psychology, attachment theory, psychology of grieving and family systems psychology to help you and your children through a difficult emotional transition. At Divorce Options San Diego we emphasize an efficient, caring process that leaves out no detail relevant to your emotional, financial or legal situation.
This leaves you free to get on with your life and care for your kids and yourself both during and after your divorce. We have offices in Solana Beach, but can work with you remotely at your convenience using telephone, video-conferencing apps and other forms of electronic communication. Please contact us [link to contact page] for a discreet and confidential consultation see how we can help.